My darling, has anyone ever asked you what would it take for you to leave?
What would it take for you to leave your job? Or your relationship? What would it take for you to leave life as you know it? Your career, your marriage, your house of worship? What would it take for you to leave…fill in the blank.
It’s a viable question. Knowing the answer can be an important step in deciding when to transition to the next place in your life.
But, my darling, maybe the better question isn’t what would it take for you to leave, but what will it take for you to stay. What do you have to feel to stay where you are today?
How do you want to be treated in order to stay where you are?
With respect? Kindness?
You are the only one who gets to decide your right answer, because you are the only one who has to live your one and only, true and precious, life.
Do you like the challenge of an uphill, mountainous climb? Or prefer a smooth, easy walk on the beach?
Do you want to be joyful and happy? Or do you thrive on conflict?
When you get up in the morning, what propels you forward?
Maybe it’s time to reframe the questions we ask ourselves and each other.
Believers of the Law of Attraction posit that what you think is what you attract. If you focus on negative thoughts or beliefs, Law of Attraction says you will attract negative events to your life. Conversely, if you focus on positive thoughts or beliefs, that is what will manifest in your life.
If you don’t necessarily believe in the Law of Attraction, then consider the concept of self-fulfilling prophecies. This concept, which dates back to Ancient Greece and Ancient India, states that belief in a statement changes our behavior in ways that we make the statement come true.
Let that sink in for a moment. If we believe a statement, we will subconsciously change our behavior in ways that will make the statement come true.
Have you ever known someone who says things like, “I always get the short end of the stick,” or “Nothing ever goes my way.”
Have you ever known them to be wrong?
Have you ever known someone who says things like, “I always get good parking spots,” and sure enough, they always do?
Open your mind, my darling, and consider this. If you say, out loud or even only to yourself, “I’m leaving this job if my boss yells at me one more time,” then you might just be inviting your boss to yell at you.
If you say, out loud or even just to yourself, “I’m leaving the next time my lover insults me,” maybe that’s exactly the self-fulfilling prophecy that will bring it about.
But maybe if you align your thoughts with what you want to happen, as opposed to what you want to avoid, just maybe that is what you will attract to yourself.
Try saying this, “I will stay at my job as long as I am treated with respect and fairly compensated.”
“I will stay at my job as long as I am mentally stimulated.”
“I will stay at my job if I get promoted within the next six months.”
Or how about these mantras.
“I will stay with my lover as long as I feel cherished and adored.”
“I will stay in my marriage as long as I feel loved and respected.”
One of two things are bound to happen. Either what you have stated will happen, thus proving the law of attraction.
Or those things won’t happen, and you will know that it is time to move along, to the next job or the next lover.
If you get fixed in your mind exactly how you want to feel, or how you want to be treated; if you settle on how you want to vibrate in this glorious universe we call home, then you will know what you need to do if you don’t feel that way.
What will it take for you to stay?
For me, it is joy and contentment, respect and love, with a generous dollop of excitement and adventure. If those things fade away, then it’s time for a new career, or a new hobby, new friends or a new relationship.
But that’s just my answer. Tell me about yours. What will it take for you to stay?